Coffee Talk with Christy

Some Fun Things About Houston

2010-01-13T14:34:00.001-06:00

Wow, Houston is growing so fast right before my eyes! He is definitely transitioning into the "toddler" phase. He is so darn cute!

He can say, "Mommy, Daddy, Night-Night, Thank You, Bye-Bye, Puppy, Ball" and a few more. Last week, EVERY time someone would ask him a question, he would say, "Yeah!" It was the cutest thing, and the kids had fun asking him all kinds of crazy questions. But this week, "Yeah!" is out of his vocabulary. He NOW says, "No,no,no,no,no!" Ah! In one week, he went from agreeable to disagreeable! Also, when I sing "Old McDonald had a farm....," he pipes in with "E-I-E-I-O." It sounds like, "Yiy Yiy Yo." So sweet!

He had his first, second, and third "tantrums" this week! He threw himself down on the floor face-first and wiggled his legs a little. Then he would pull his head up and look around, and do it again! It wasn't really loud, just kind of a whimper. Good thing I turned away before he could see me laughing!

He loves for you to clap for him, and he joins in - what little kid doesn't? He likes to dance to music, which consists of leaning over a little, and bouncing up and down. He loves to throw and kick balls - he has a ton of them. I see a future athlete on my hands.

He can eat! At Christmas time, I think he ate 4 big slices of ham in one sitting! And he has a nice little pot-belly to show for it.

He loves "wrestling" with Jay, snuggling with Hayley, and playing with toys side-by-side with Hunter. He truly completes our family!

The Big Change

2010-01-01T21:17:00.001-06:00

I've said in the past that I usually don't make New Year's Resolutions. However, I decided last week to make a big change in my life, and since the new year was approaching, I made January 1,2010 my start date. What's the big change, you say? I am going to...........quit drinking Diet Cokes. Ouch. It hurt just to say that. See, I have been drinking diet cokes for well over 15 years. And that's about all that I drink. Some people drink different things when they eat dinner, or go out to eat, etc. I drink diet coke 24/7. I am HIGHLY addicted.

There are two main reasons that I have made this decision. The biggest reason is actually economical. When Jay and I sat down last week to set our 2010 budget and financial goals, we realized that we probably spend over $20 a week on sodas! That's bad! The other reason is the health benefits of quitting. I am not as concerned about the caffeine as I am about everything else that makes up a diet coke. I have been feeling more dehydrated lately as well. I have cut back in the past, and once I do, my body craves more water and I end up not liking the taste of diet coke as much. The problem is that if I have one, I continue to crave them, and can not kick the habit. So I will have to give them up all together, I am afraid.

I am not sure that I can accomplish this, but I am going to do everything in my power! And I will let you know how it goes! My plan is to give myself until the 15th to wean my body of them, then I should be DONE. We will see!

Have you kicked a bad habit before? How did you do it?

"Money Matters" Re-vamped

2009-12-29T21:36:00.002-06:00

Remember the other blog that I started a long time ago? Money Matters? Well, I have given it a makeover, and it is now less of a Finance course, and more of a money-saving extravaganza! Check it out, and let me know what you think. I hope it helps.

Just a Snapshot

2009-12-29T13:12:00.000-06:00

Yes it's been a long time. There has been so much going on the past few months, that trying to record it all has been overwhelming to me. I will try to do better. I tried hard to get some pictures late-November and early December so that I could do Christmas cards, but my attempts failed. We have not had a real family picture taken since we have grown by one. That is on my list! This picture was taken by my fabulous sister-in-law on Christmas Eve. It was the only one where Hunter wasn't acting silly or Houston wasn't fidgeting too much. It makes my heart all warm and fuzzy.....

Oh how my family blesses me!

Girl's Trip to see T-Swift!

2009-09-27T22:54:00.005-05:00

I took Hayley to the Taylor Swift concert in Little Rock, AR last night as an early birthday present. This was Hayley's first concert to go to - and might I say - it rocked! I was very impressed by the entire show. Kellie Pickler (from American Idol) opened the show and did a great job. Taylor was unbelievable. She definitely brought more "edge" than I have seen from her on the TV. The theme was "Fearless," and seemed to revolve around her being an outcast in junior high, and around "bad boys" in her life. She had a ton of special effects, including a waterfall with "words," in which she sang while getting soaked on her last song. She came down from the audience in one song, and rose up on a platform very close to where we were sitting for a couple of songs. I have had a mild headache ever since the concert, probably due to the loud music. Wow, I'm getting really old! I even had to plug my ears while the audience screamed for a couple of minutes straight. We spent the night in a hotel and ate ice cream while watching TV in bed. I told Hayley we should become "groupies" and follow her around the country. My little girl is growing so fast.

Houston is ONE!

2009-09-24T09:00:00.018-05:00

Houston turned 1 year old last Tuesday and we had a family party on Saturday for him. The time has gone by so fast, and having 2 older children, I know that it will continue to do so. I wish I could freeze time - I am enjoying him so much at this age!

Weight: 24 lbs

Teeth: 2 on top (with 2 others emerging), and 2 on bottom.....total 6

Eating/Drinking: He eats a little bit of everything we eat for the most part, in small pieces. He is still on the bottle 3 times a day (6-8 oz). He LOVES his bottle. I need to wean him from it, but it's so hard!

Walking: All over the place! Doesn't crawl much at all anymore. He has the walking thing down.

Clothes: Starting to wear 18 months (still some 12 months)

Shoes: No shoes yet. He does not like shoes. Will work on that this fall.

Talking: Babbles a lot! He will repeat "Uh Oh" and "Thank You" - very cute!He loves books! I catch him in his bed "reading" during naptime frequently! He also loves Hunter's action figures and cars. I try to keep them away, because I worry about small pieces, but when Hunter is at school I catch Houston with one of his Power Rangers, "flying" it and making noises just like Hunter does. Houston is a very good-natured and happy little boy. I couldn't ask for better!

Not sure yet

Getting the hang of it

"I kind of like this"

"Boy, that was fun!"

Wordless Wednesday

2009-09-10T07:37:00.002-05:00

Tantrum over a Bottle

2009-09-08T09:39:00.002-05:00

You know it's your third child when this only makes you laugh.....

A Fresh New Way to Earn Some "Bucks"

2009-09-07T20:44:00.008-05:00

I have recently discovered a new site via the blogging world, called Swagbucks.com. Swagbucks.com is a FREE search engine, that when used, can earn you "Swagbucks," which in turn can be exchanged for merchandise. You can also earn Swagbucks by shopping in the site's store, or by referring your friends. One of the most popular redemptions are Amazon.com gift cards, which you can use to buy almost anything! I have been on the site for about 4 days, and have already earned 14 Swagbucks! Better yet, download the new Swagbucks Toolbar, and you will receive at least ONE Swagbuck every day in September. Some experienced bloggers that I follow make quite a bit of income with Swagbucks every month! It is definitely worth checking out. I haven't had to make any commitments or deal with junk mail. I just search the web like I always have, but now I earn "Bucks" for doing it! To register (it's quick and easy), simply click on the banner below.....you will get started with 3 Swagbucks in your account!

Help a Mom Out!

2009-08-20T17:22:00.004-05:00

One of the hardest things for me to perfect as a mom is D-I-N-N-E-R! What am I doing wrong? I think my children are the pickiest eaters in the world!

Granted, I never really "learned" to cook. Sorry mom, but I didn't really have anyone to teach me. Our family had two parents who worked outside the home, and between my extracurricular activities most nights of the week, we ate convenience food quite often.

I have a ton of cookbooks and recipes to choose from, but I can't seem to please the troops. I have 3-4 recipes that they will eat with a smile.

So, I can use all of the help I can get! If you have a kid-friendly, budget-friendly, easy dinner recipe for me to try, please let me know!

Wordless Wednesday

2009-08-19T18:06:00.002-05:00

Happy Birthday "Once Upon a Blog!"

2009-08-14T08:15:00.002-05:00

It's the 2-year birthday of my girl Jennisa's fabulous blog design site Once Upon a Blog. In addition to my blog, she has designed for over 500 other clients. She also creates websites, business cards, invitations, twitter backgrounds, and so much more! She is super easy to work with, patient, and very efficient! Not to mention TALENTED! Please check out the website and take a look at her portfolio. You will love her designs. And you'll come across some other great blogs to read.

You're on "(Insert Last Name Here)" Camera!

2009-08-13T15:29:00.004-05:00

I have recently started reading a book called Desperate Households, by Christian author Kathy Peel. I wouldn't say that I am in desperation mode at all, but as a new stay-at-home mom, I can use all the pointers that I can get to meet expectations. I really could have used this book when I was working outside the home as well! I haven't gotten far into the book, but she wrote something that struck me, and I had to pass it along.

She was talking about an experience in which she was a guest on a television program that had followed a family around and recorded their time together. Kathy states the following:

I thought to myself, Wow, I don't know many people who would want everything recorded, because they might say some things or do some things they'd want to be edited out and not replayed.

This experience serves as a good illustration and reminder that although most of us would probably never allow a television crew to record what's happening in our homes, our children's minds are much like video camera, constantly recording what's going on around them. When it comes to how they feel about their home and family, we don't know which attitudes and actions will be edited out and which ones will be archived in their memory banks.

So true! I needed to be reminded of that. Not that I do "bad things" around my children, but I want them to have many more positive experiences than negative ones. I tend to stress out about the small things and allow that to affect my mood around my family. I need to watch my attitude, and make our home a safe, comfortable environment that everyone can't wait to come back to at the end of the day.

Wordless Wednesday

2009-08-12T09:58:00.004-05:00

Something to think about

2009-08-01T20:19:00.004-05:00

I try not to blog too much on politics, but I feel the following article that my friend emailed me is a perfect explanation of why Socialism does not work. Don't get me wrong, I feel that there is a great need out there to help others, but government force is not the way to go about it.

An economics professor at a local college made a statement that he had never failed a single student before, but had once failed an entire class.

That class had insisted that Obama's socialism worked and that no one would be poor and no one would be rich, a great equalizer.

The professor then said, "OK, we will have an experiment in this class on Obama's plan".

All grades would be averaged and everyone would receive the same grade so no one would fail and no one would receive an A.

After the first test, the grades were averaged and everyone got a B.

The students who studied hard were upset and the students who studied little were happy.

As the second test rolled around, the students who studied little had studied even less and the ones who studied hard decided they wanted a free ride too so they studied little.

The second test average was a D!

No one was happy.

When the 3rd test rolled around, the average was an F.

The scores never increased as bickering, blame and name-calling all resulted in hard feelings and no one would study for the benefit of anyone else.

All failed, to their great surprise, and the professor told them that socialism would also ultimately fail because when the reward is great, the effort to succeed is great but when government takes all the reward away, no one will try or want to succeed.

Could not be any simpler than that.

Feel free to comment whether you agree or not!

Wordless Wednesday

2009-07-29T09:53:00.002-05:00

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Smart School Supply Shopping

2009-07-27T23:21:00.003-05:00

Check out the School Supply Round-Up at one of my favorite sites! You get the price breakdown on common supplies at many stores such as Walmart, Target, Walgreens, Staples, etc. I thought I was being smart by getting it done early this year, but I probably missed out on some great deals!

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"Not Me" Monday

2009-07-27T17:30:00.005-05:00

MckMama at mycharmingkids.net started a weekly blog carnival a few months ago called “Not Me Monday.” It is intended to allow us moms to admit our imperfections and stop hiding our flaws. So here goes my Monday.....

I did NOT catch Houston eating cheerios off the kitchen floor and CONTINUE to let him do it!

I did NOT get mad at a man who would not let me in when the lanes were merging today, and then “HAPPILY” wave at him as I passed him by a few minutes later when the lanes opened up again. (And yes I waved, not what you’re thinking!)

I did NOT go the store, grab a 12 pack of diet cokes, put it in the bottom of the cart, then completely FORGET to put it on the counter for the cashier, walk out of the store without paying for it, and then LEAVE it in the cart in the parking lot and drive off. :)

That's my Monday!

On a side note, please pray for MckMama, as she is in the hospital right now with her extremely ill son, Stellan. Stellan needs all of our prayers!

The Winner Is.....

2009-07-19T00:09:00.003-05:00

It’s time to give away some prizes! I assigned a number to each of your entries. Then I plugged the numbers into random.org (taking a cue from Gretta) to get my winners. Can you believe that we got three different ladies?! Here are the results:

A copy of the book The Husband Project - Courtney

The Husband Project DVD – Randi

A copy of The Frozen Gourmet - Kelley

You can each email me at cbrockman7@hotmail.com to make arrangements to get your prizes.

I think we all leave this project with some new insight into our marriages. I used to think, “My husband would never read a book and do all of this for ME.” But we can’t think like that, can we? Let’s face it – men and women are made very differently, and we have to understand those differences, not resent them. I learned early in my marriage that if it was going to last, I needed to release my husband from unfair expectations. My husband expresses his love for me in many small ways, and I am trying to learn not to take that for granted. Some of you may have realized that by taking the initiative and “spoiling” your husbands, a little bit of that attitude may have rubbed off on them. Or it may not have yet. Sometimes it takes a little longer. We have to be unconditional in our love, and let God take care of the rest. I hope that you had a great week! Don’t stop now!

Husband Project Day Five

2009-07-17T00:08:00.001-05:00

Project #5
E-flirt.com

Text or E-mail Some Sweet Nothings

“I turn on my computer. I wait patiently as it connects. I go online. My breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words, “You’ve got Mail.” I hear nothing, not a sound on the streets of New York. Just the beat of my own heart… I have mail, from you.”
Meg Ryan as Kathleen Kennedy in “You’ve Got Mail”

Your Project
Send a flirty text or e-mail to your husband.

Getting Creative

Use an e-card service (hallmark.com or americangreetings.com) to send a cute and flirty note.
Don’t know how to text? Ask any teenager in the general vicinity.
Most phones have a camera feature where you can send a photo message. Be sure to keep it G rated so that he doesn’t get in trouble at work.

Husband Project Day Four

2009-07-16T00:59:00.002-05:00

Project #4
Heart vs. Stomach
A Treat Just for Him

“You can tell a lot about a fellow’s character by his way of eating jellybeans.”
Ronald Reagan

Your Project:
Get a food treat for your husband that he’s not required to share with you or any other family member.

Getting Creative
Stumped for ideas? Here are some thoughts:
• Get his favorite pint of Ben & Jerry’s and hide it behind the frozen chicken. Even if you buy it on Tuesday, you’ll have it ready and waiting for his special night later in the week.
• Is there a certain cut of meat that your husband loves? How about having the butcher cut something just for him? Most supermarkets will even do the marinade for you – one less thing to think about.
• Is there a certain candy that your husband loves from his childhood? Check out www.candywarehouse.com. They have all the nostalgic candy you could want (Black Jack Gum, anyone?) while also carrying any modern favorite you could be looking for.
• My husband’s family loves something called “noodles and mashed potatoes” (we lovingly refer to it as “The Starch Fest”). I learned how to make this special dish just for him.
• My guy loves the smell of baking almost as much as he enjoys eating the treat. Have some brownies in the oven when he gets home from work or working out. (I know, it negates the workout, but isn’t chocolate always worth it?)
• Our friend Scott mentioned that he loves cranberry sauce, but eats it only at Thanksgiving. His wife intentionally made the holiday treat for him this past July.
• Are you a wife who is an expert at low-cal salads and other forms of chick-food? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at www.kathilipp.com for ideas

Husband Project Day Three

2009-07-15T00:03:00.001-05:00

Project #3
You da’ Man

Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy

Your Project:
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.

Getting Creative
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about who you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).

Here are some other areas to think about when crafting your brag:

His parenting skills
His patience level
The way he treats your mom
His culinary ability
His job
His loyalty to you

Christy's note: I am absolutely loving the comments - keep up the great work!

Husband Project Day Two

2009-07-14T00:42:00.004-05:00

Project #2
Back in the Day
Do Something He Enjoyed Before You Got Married

“Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” ~ Carl Reiner

Your Project:
Initiate an activity that your husband used to love. Whether it’s his favorite hobby, sport, or pastime, it’s time for you to get involved – be his buddy today.

Getting Creative
• Many a man’s hobby has gone by the wayside due to matrimony. Is it possible that it’s time you learned to golf or fly fish? Don’t try to beat him, just join him.

• Possibly the only thing your husband would enjoy more than playing chess with you is teaching you how to play chess. Ask for a lesson so he can teach you something that he is an expert at (or really loves). Just your willingness to learn will be a huge boost to your guy.

• Pick up a magazine about your guy’s now dormant hobby. Ask him questions about why he loves it so much. Learn a couple of technical terms so that you are better able to discuss it.

• Do a little research. Find out what the definitive website is on your husband’s favorite subject. Maybe there’s an event in town, a lecture to attend, or a game to watch.

Christy's note: I know this may be a little challenging to accomplish in one day, buy hey, this is a challenge, right? I know that Jay LOVES it when I sit down and watch one of his "nerdy" TV shows with him on the Discovery or History channel. Even though I would never watch them on my own, and it's really hard to put everything else aside to do something that I don't find much fun, it really means a lot to my husband to spend that time with me doing or watching something that he loves. And it really isn't so bad once I get into it! Sometimes men feel like they lose a piece of themselves when they become "us." Even though they love being husbands and fathers, a small piece of every man fantasizes about the "old days." I'm excited to hear what you do!

Husband Project Day One

2009-07-13T00:42:00.001-05:00

Project #1

30 Minutes is All it Takes

Create Some Free Time When He Gets Home

“There's never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”
~Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

Your Project:

Focus on your husband’s transitional 30 minutes today. Would he like to be left alone to rest and rejuvenate, or does he want some undivided attention from you? The point is to let your husband know you value what he does out in the world, and that he has a safe loving place to come home and get refreshed at the end of the day.

Getting Creative
There are plenty of reasons why it might not be easy for you to give your husband some transition time at the end of the day. You need to look at what can work for your relationship. Be creative, like the stories listed below. Brainstorm with your friends until you find a situation that will work for you and your guy.

My friend, Joann, purposely scheduled her daughter’s dance classes twice a week at the same hour that her husband gets home from work. That way, her hubby comes home to an empty house. He gets some quiet, and she gets a more peaceful man.

One husband has his workshop out in the garage. His wife encourages him to go and hang out there for a while before dinner. (Since starting this arrangement, her husband has started helping out with the after-dinner clean up. Nice side benefit.)

Crockpots are The Husband Project’s best friend. Set your crockpot to be finished thirty minutes after your husband gets home from work. Let him know that you don’t need anything until dinner is ready. Don’t know a crockpot from a flower pot? Check out the recipes in The Ultimate Guide to Man Food at www.kathilipp.com

Does your husband already have a great transition routine after getting home? Find some other little thing to bless that time. Maybe it’s making sure the TV is available, his favorite sweats are clean and ready to be changed into, or there’s a cold soda waiting for him in the fridge. It may be so small that he doesn’t even notice. That’s okay – you’ll know what you did.

What if your husband works from home? Maybe the best way to help him relax is to ask what he would like the schedule to be. Does he want dinner before or after he gets some time to recharge? Ask him what would make his night better.

Christy’s note: This was especially hard for me when I worked outside the home. Jay would get home and I immediately needed him to do this and that, when all he wanted to do is sit in front of the TV and CHILL OUT. He would say that once he has settled in, he would help out with whatever I needed. Well, I needed help RIGHT THEN. I used to resent this about him. See, I liked to come home from work, get everything done (dinner, baths, homework, clean up) and then relax once the kids were in bed. Sometimes it’s hard for us women to relax amidst the clutter and other “things to do.” What I didn’t realize is that I was trying to force Jay to conform to MY way of doing things. That’s not right. I needed to understand his needs as a man as well. He wasn’t trying to be selfish, he just need time to transition from his day at work. I wish I had learned this lesson sooner!

***BTW- you can comment on these posts the next day as well since some of the tasks take place in the evening hours.

Because it couldn't hurt, right?

2009-07-11T20:14:00.009-05:00

Okay, readers……Now it’s my turn to do a “5-day Mini-Blog Challenge” featuring The Husband Project by Kathi Lipp. Kathi has graciously offered to donate some fun prizes for my giveaway. They include:

A copy of the book The Husband Project
The Husband Project DVD
A copy of The Frozen Gourmet (a frozen meal cookbook)

So gear up and get ready to win the challenge! It’s very simple – each day this next week, Monday through Friday, I will post a “challenge” for you straight from Kathi’s book . Once you have completed the task, just leave me a comment on how it went, and you will get one entry each day into the drawing. Leave me a comment on this post that you plan to do the challenge and I will give you an entry. You get an extra entry if you link this Challenge into your own blog! Just leave me a comment on this post to let me know you have done so. I will draw 3 names at the end of the week for the prizes, and yes, you could possibly win all three!

Below is a little tidbit about Kathi’s book:

Do you feel like your marriage has gone from "I do" to "What did I do?" Recapture the romance that made you and your husband fall in love in the first place. The Husband Project provides 21 days of fun activities to show love and honor to your husband. Kathi Lipp will help you discover:

Proven ways to return fun and flirting to your marriage.
Inner assurance to meet your husband’s unspoken emotional needs.
Increased confidence when it comes to meeting your husband’s sexual needs.
New levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship.
A deeper sense of security with your husband.
A greater ability to boost your husband’s belief in himself.

I truly believe that when we go out of our way to make our husbands happy (this usually begins reluctantly), that we learn to rid ourselves of resentment, ill feelings, and selfishness. We as wives usually come out ahead, because we are transformed from within, and as the Bible verse goes, “Do unto others….” Our wonderful husbands may learn a few tricks along the way!
I will post the winner of the prize giveaway next Sunday on my blog. Let’s have some fun this week – I’m excited to hear about your efforts! We will ALL be winners after the challenge!

Oops....I almost forgot....Kathi is also giving away a free e-cookbook on her site www.kathilipp.com (if you sign up for her newsletter) called The Ultimate Guide to Man Food or How to Drive Your Husband Wild with Passion by Impersonating Betty Crocker. I need all the help I can get!

Three years and still blogging....

2009-07-11T19:13:00.005-05:00

I just noticed that Thursday (July 9) marked three years since my first post Calling All Bloggers. The funny thing is, I didn't post again until a year and a half later, with Back to Blogging, and have been going ever since. It has been fun to look back and laugh at some of the previous posts. I have never had a diary or journal - except for the one that my English teacher made us write in once a week! So this has been a wonderful way to share my life with others, and with myself years down the road. Thanks for sharing the journey.

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My Spiel for Now....

2009-06-29T23:50:00.004-05:00

There are times when I get worked up about something, and really just want to put it out there and get it off my chest. I call them my little soapbox moments. I think my blog is a great place to air my thoughts. It might even foster some hearty discussion. I tell people all of the time that a huge oxymoron about myself is that I am a very opinionated person and yet very open-minded at the same time. I am quick to make conclusions about things, but love to hear what others think. I am not afraid to change my mind.

I know many of you are familiar with the TV show Jon and Kate Plus Eight. You may even be a little tired of all of the drama surrounding the series by now. I must admit, when it first came out, I fell in love, and watched it a lot. But to be honest, I have not followed the show in a while, especially since the marital problems have been public. I have only been aware of what is going on through the news and internet. Tonight, as I was changing channels, I happened upon the recent show where they announce their decision to separate. What an uncomfortable show to view. There a few observations or thoughts that I would like to share with you. Please keep in mind that I may not have all of the facts or may be misinformed. Feel free to correct me. I also usually try not to comment or judge other people’s lives, but remember, they went on reality TV, so it’s okay, right? So here goes.

Yes, Kate may be a little neurotic, but I guarantee that I would be too if I had 8 kids (6 of whom are the same age).

Jon waited too long to speak up about his feelings. He even admitted that kept silent for too long, and now he is speaking up for himself. Well that’s not fair, buddy. I can understand some of his resentment, but he should have suggested some counseling or something. Again, maybe he did, but I didn’t get that impression.

Jon mentioned that they have been having problems for 7 or 8 months. Didn’t they just renew their vows in Hawaii in October or November 2008? You do the math. I thought vows were a symbol of commitment.

Jon complained about the paparazzi. He stated that there are soldiers in Iraq dying, but all people care about is what he is eating for lunch. Hello – who went on a reality TV show?

He also said that he would do anything for his kids. I’m not going to even comment on this.

It seems that in most dissolved marriages, one or both parties decide that he or she is not “happy” anymore. And we all “deserve” to be happy, right? How selfish.

You might be able to tell that I lean a little to Kate’s side on this issue. I know she is not perfect, and she was not always kind to him in the interviews. But it seems that Jon decided suddenly that he has a problem with the relationship. He let hard feelings fester for too long, where now it seems almost irreparable. I also have a small inclination that he just wants some freedom altogether to go do what he wants as a single man.

Well, there you have it. That’s my little spiel for now.

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Monkey See, Monkey Do

2009-06-28T21:58:00.003-05:00

Oh, how much our little ones observe! Day two of The Husband Project week-long mini-series had instructed me to leave little Post-its around the house for Jay telling him all of the things that I love and appreciate about him. I asked Hayley if she had any Post-it’s and she brought me down some heart-shaped ones not knowing what I was going to do with them. I proceeded to follow directions, and left them on his phone, the bathroom mirror, his closet door, his wallet, etc. To be honest, I wasn’t excited about this task, because I thought Jay might think it was a little cheesy, and smile out of politeness. But he actually really loved it, and kept asking if he had found them all. He also announced to the kids how much he loves their mother. Awwhhh….makes you sick, doesn’t it? The next day, I wake up, and find little notes all over the house. From whom you say? Not Jay. But they were from Hayley, my 8 year old daughter. Here are what I few of them said:

“Thank you for having fun with me!”
“You’re the best mom a child could ever have!”
“Thank you for all you do!”
“I could never have a better mom like you!”
“I love you! Best mom ever!”
“Thank you for having Hunter and Houston!”
“URA Great cook!” (What???)
“Thank you for marring (marrying) a good husband/dad!”
“Thank you for taking care of me!”

But it was one note in particular that made me cry. I have to give you a brief background so that you can understand. I recently began a morning devotional (please note - just began - I have not been good at morning devotionals for a LONG time) and am reading two books by Stormie Omartian – The Power of a Praying Wife and The Power of a Praying Parent. Very good reads- but that is a whole other blog. Hayley caught me reading the latter one and asked what I was reading. I explained how I am learning to pray for her, Hunter and Houston – and every part of their lives. We had a long discussion about this. I wasn’t sure that she even thought about it long after we talked. But that last note, the one that I mentioned earlier, read:

“Thank you for praying for Me, Houston, & Hunter”

What more can a mom ask for?

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Houston - 9 Months

2009-06-28T21:19:00.009-05:00

Houston is now 9 months old! I have been enjoying him so much lately, as he has really begun to develop his little personality,

Stats:
Weight 22.4 lbs (Chunky!)
Wearing 9-12 month clothing.
Wearing size 4 diapers – as of this week
Crawling -a little funny, but it works!
Pulling up and cruising – all of the time!
Standing on his own – 15 seconds is his record!
Teeth – two on the bottom. He is drooling like crazy, but he won’t let me feel around for any more emerging teeth for very long, so it’s hard to tell.

He is taking 3 (6oz) bottles during the day, and wakes about around 11:00p.m. for an 8 oz bottle. He then sleeps until 7:30 or 8:00 the next morning. Since I have been home, he is on a predictable routine with naps and mealtimes. He has recently begun eating some soft table food. He does pretty well with soft meat and the Gerber pasta. He loves cheerios! I usually put a few on his tray before I feed him to keep him occupied while I’m getting his meal ready. He likes to babble and blow raspberries. He loves the bath and is crazy about the swimming pool! He is so much fun to play with and loves playing or “wrestling” with his daddy! His little smile is contagious!

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The New "Me"

2009-06-28T20:47:00.001-05:00

In case you haven’t heard through Facebook or word of mouth, I have recently become a stay-at-home mom. After much prayer and discussion, Jay and I took the leap of faith and agreed that I would spend my time here at home, taking care of our family, instead of working like I have been for the past 4-5 years. People had been saying, “I don’t know how you do it all.” Well, I was getting “it all” done, but at the expense of my family. I am a typical type “A” personality. As much as I’ve tried to change some of my perfectionist tendencies, it’s really a part of who I am as a person, and it isn’t easy to change those traits! I was getting 5-6 hours of sleep at night, and coming home impatient and tired. Then, I had to figure out dinner, help with homework, give baths, etc, etc. And take care of Houston! I was not the person that I hoped to be. I have wanted to be a mom my whole life, and I was not the mom that I had envisioned. Not to say that we all have to be perfect, but I was not spending my time wisely. And my family was getting my leftovers, you could say. They seemed to think things were fine. But I knew otherwise. I knew how much better I could be. Hayley is going to be going through many changes in the next few years, and I want us to have the type of relationship where she feels she can talk to me. We were not going to develop that relationship in a couple of hours every day where I was behaving more like a drill sergeant than a mother. I had Houston because I felt like the years have flown by and my other two babies were going to be teenagers before I could blink. Then, I wasn’t able to spend as much time with him, because he was going to bed an hour after we would get home in the evening.

The decision wasn’t easy. When you slowly become a two-income family, you slowly acquire two-income bills. So it was a very hefty pay-cut. In light of the current economy, I felt guilty that people were honestly losing their jobs, and unable to find work. But I knew that I could not let that hinder my step in the right direction. I worked out a budget – there’s not much room for uncertainty – and we decided that it was feasible if we kept to it. We have good credit and pay all of our bills on time, so it is very important to me that we keep it that way. As a friend said recently, “You spend as much money as you make.” How true! We would just have to be creative, and realize that I don’t REALLY need all that new furniture that I want!

It has been almost a month, and my family LOVES the new “Me!” I am not stressed, impatient, tired (well, maybe I am tired, but it’s a GOOD tired!) or irritable. I take time to play. I cook – yikes! I keep the house clean. Jay is not wondering when he is going to have clean underwear! I am much more laid-back, you could say. I would not say that it is easy staying home. It’s difficult to get some things done when I have a 9 month old and other people that need my attention. But I’m not resentful anymore. I know that this is now my “job,” and it’s the best job ever. I hope to learn what God’s plan is for me, and spend my time following HIS purpose. It’s taking some time to get the routine down, and to be honest, some days don’t go as planned AT ALL. But that’s okay. As long as I make my home a happy place to be, then I am doing my job.

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By the way....

2009-06-12T15:46:00.002-05:00

Many more posts to come soon! I know I've been a slacker, but that is all about to change!

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The Husband Project

2009-06-12T15:41:00.002-05:00

Check out my girl Gretta's blog for an enriching five-day Blog Mini-Series based on the book The Husband Project. You'll given tasks to give your man a little extra TLC and enter to win several prizes. I know Jay doesn't always get the best I have to offer, and hopefully this will get me on the right track. Join in the fun!

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Who's ya daddy?

2009-03-26T22:19:00.006-05:00

There is no denying it.....

Jay at 5 1/2 months

Houston at 5 months

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6 months

2009-03-22T17:19:00.013-05:00

Can you believe the little guy has gone from this

to this?

Oh how sad it makes me! I wish I could freeze time so badly! Here are some facts about Houston:

He is wearing 6-9 months in clothing

He takes 5 bottles of 8oz each a day. He has started eating rice cereal and oatmeal. I think he has very sensitive taste buds. It took him forever to like the cereal and oatmeal (he gobbles it up now). However, anytime I try to feed him fruits or veggies he gets really mad and spits it out.

He sleeps about 9 hours a night. Sometimes he gets up around 10:00 or 11:00 at night for his last bottle, then lays back down until 5:30-6:00. Thankfully, he is not waking up in the wee hours anymore to eat.

His daycare teachers LOVE him, and tell me he is the best baby that they have EVERY day. I think he's a little flirt. :)

He has been rolling over from back to front for a while now. He usually just rolls one way though.

He is scooting, but not crawling.

He loves to blow raspberries and make noises. His little face gets so serious when he "talks," as if he's really concentrating on what he has to say.

When he smiles, his whole face lights up. He is the happiest baby I have ever had. He just loves life.

He loves to watch people and animals. He is fascinated with the world around him.

I am crazy about him!

Some more pics:

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Just for Grins

2009-03-07T11:27:00.008-06:00

Check out my friend Jenny's website below. She makes adorable children's clothing, hairbows, bibs, burp cloths, sippy cups, pacifier holders and more!

Little Giggle Gang

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She Did It Again!

2009-03-05T23:33:00.003-06:00

Thanks Jennisa (ONCE UPON A BLOG) for the blog face lift! And special thanks to Jay for the early birthday present (which he doesn't know about)!

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Go Hunter Go!

2009-03-04T08:47:00.009-06:00

Hunter had his first soccer game EVER last night. He scored 3 of the team's 5 goals! We were proud parents!

The following video is of him trying to score a goal, but missing. We didn't get the others on video - argh! His team is Navy. You can see him in the middle of the pack at the beginning, then he breaks through the other players. It is pretty chaotic. You may want to turn your volume down.

Good Night, Sleep Tight….Yeah,Right!

2009-03-03T16:43:00.003-06:00

Don't let that sweet face fool you.

Okay, so the little guy has really been cramping my style lately. He was on a nice little schedule for a few months where he would eat around 7:30-8:00, go to bed, then not wake up to eat again until 5:00 the next morning.

Well, it was all too good to be true!

So, I thought, maybe he’s going through a growth spurt. After a few attempts to try cereal again, he has finally begun to take to it. And now he eats it like it’s his last meal! The first night I gave it to him around 8:30 with a bottle, and he did not wake up until 4:30 the next day. That’s the answer, right? WRONG. The daycare gave him cereal mid-day yesterday, and I tried the same routine last night to no avail. He woke up at 2:30 in the morning screaming. I changed his diaper and tried to lay him back down, but he would not have it. He was hungry!

Aahh! What is the answer? I know this is my third child, I should know what to do.

Any advice?

The Mommy Wars

2009-03-03T16:28:00.004-06:00

Last week, as I was driving to work, I heard the tail-end of a discussion on my local radio station. The buzz was about a recent article in BabyTalk Magazine about working moms vs. stay-at –home moms. I was unable to locate the article, but the dialogue turned a little nasty and really disturbed me.

A working mom came on the radio and announced that stay-at-home moms were “lazy and unmotivated.” A stay –at-home mom countered that working moms are “unwilling to sacrifice for their children.”

Do you want to know what I think?

It may surprise you........

WHO GIVES A FLYING FLIP WHAT I THINK??? OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER???

Seriously, why do will still discuss this issue? Does another mom’s personal decision affect me in ANY way? NO? So who cares? But for some reason, this is still a heated debate in our country. Are working moms “neglecting” their kids? Are stay-at-home moms not “reaching their full potential?” Why the debate?

I think a contributor to New York Magazine sums it up well:

Motherhood, for all its well-documented joys, has become a flash point for envy, resentment, and guilt. "Everybody struggles, and everybody envies what the other has," says the stay-at-home mother of a 9- and a 14-year-old. "The working mom wishes she had more free time to be available to her child, and maybe have coffee after drop-off. And the nonworking woman would maybe like to have something that's a reflection of her as an individual -- a label that says she's a capable, creative person who knows about more than just baby formula or after-school programs."

So really, it’s all about resentment. We all want a little of what the other has. Every mom feels guilty in her own right. I am a working mother, but have also been a stay-at-home mom. I can vouch for both sides. Neither way is best. What is best is dependent on the parties involved. All I know is that I, like most mothers, want my children to feel happy and loved. And I have no doubt that they do. That’s all that matters, right? So, if you ask me, I think that anyone who wants to make judgment about another mother’s personal life is bitter and unhappy with her own life.

I have talked about this topic more than it deserves. Feel free to add your comments.

Medical Bills

2009-02-25T16:28:00.004-06:00

After being on the phone all day disputing medical bills (I saved our family $327!), I thought I needed to pass along a little information. Fortunately, I used to work in medical collections, so I could use some of the terminology to get my point across. I am astonished at some of the outrageous things the hospital and other providers tried to tell me today!

1. Never pay a medical bill until you have compared it to the Explanation of Benefits (EOB) that you receive from your insurance company.

2. On your EOB, you will see a portion that says Patient Responsibility. This is ALL that you are responsible for paying.

3. You are not responsible for paying the Negotiated Discount, Non-covered charges (unless included in the Patient Responsibility part), or Write-off amount. Your medical provider and insurance company are under contract together. If your medical provider is not happy about what the insurance company didn't pay, then they can take that up with them, or not accept them anymore.

4. If they continue to try and bill you for these charges, inform them that you will report this to your insurance company. This is insurance fraud.

I used to take my medical bills at face value, and trusted the billing office clerk to know what he/she was doing. Usually, it's the insurance company that's trying to scam me! Ultimately, the patient is responsible for making sure claims are filed correctly. It is your responsibility to watch your bills and keep these people on their toes! Every penny counts!

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Forgive Me.....

2009-02-23T17:56:00.004-06:00

...but I had to post this funny. I try not to get too "political" on this blog, but sometimes I just can't help it. God Bless America.

You may have to click on the picture and enlarge it to read it.

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I wish it were true, son

2009-02-22T10:31:00.003-06:00

If you are anything like me, you get tired of your children constantly asking for stuff. It’s not that I don’t have the money. It’s that I don’t necessarily want to spend my money on the items they want, or the things they want to do. OR, I don’t even mind that. It’s just that I’m tired of them asking for SOMETHING every second of the day. So, I give them my standard response. You know the one. The one where you say, “I don’t have any money.” You hope to evoke understanding or sympathy in your children. Maybe then they won’t keep asking.

I will never forget the day about a year ago - The kids and I were driving in the car. Hunter had asked me for something – I can’t remember what. I threw out the “I don’t have any money” line. And Hunter replied, “Why don’t you just go to the bank and get it with your card?” And I said, “I wish it were that easy, son. “ Ahhh. I couldn’t stop laughing at that one.

At the risk of sounding cliché’, kids DO believe money grows on trees. Read #5 in the post below to see how we are beginning to teach our kids a little fiscal responsibility.

Our children are so blessed. They are not spoiled, but I do think sometimes we need to awaken their eyes to the many things that they have. Maybe they see us acquiring “stuff,” and think that is what is important in life. We teach them so much without even talking to them, don’t we?

Jay and I have talked about getting the kids involved in hands-on charity. We try to talk to them about those less fortunate. But is it enough? What are you doing to teach your kids about money? Do you have any words of wisdom for me or other readers?

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Dave Ramsey Update

2009-02-22T09:31:00.002-06:00

Jay and I are seven weeks into the 13 week Financial Peace University. We are really enjoying this course. We start with a video and then break into small groups to discuss the night’s topic. We look forward to the class all week. We will probably take it every couple of years just to keep ourselves refreshed. I thought I would share a few things I have learned thus far.

1. It is important to factor in lump sum payments and non-routine bills into my monthly budget. For instance, I now include 1/12 of my car taxes and car insurance in my budget. By annualizing these bills, I am not caught off guard when they come due. I also plan for the children’s clothing, school supplies/activities, my haircuts, auto repairs, medical bills and gifts. The money stays in my checking account, but I keep track of these “funds” in a separate spreadsheet.

2. Eating out was wiping us out. With a family of five (well, four “eaters”), a trip to Chick-Fil-A would cost us about $25, and a casual dining restaurant usually cost $40-60. At that rate, I am too embarrassed to admit how much money we were spending per month just eating out. But I am PROUD to share that we have only spent $133.00 in the month of February. Talk about progress! And it did not even hurt as much as I thought it would. My co-workers and I have begun pitching in on groceries such as bread, lunch meat, fruit, snacks and drinks and keeping them at work. They have become encouraged to watch their expenses as well.

3 Wait overnight to buy anything over $300, and pay for it with cash. Jay and I are both spenders, and can easily talk each other into a purchase. By forcing ourselves discuss it overnight, we will eliminate impulsive decisions. By paying cash, we will be less likely to part with our money, unless the purchase is necessary.

4. Buy term life insurance. Jay and I have 20 year policy, enough to pay our bills and support the family if something were to happen to one of us. It is very inexpensive. According to Dave, there is no need for whole life insurance. If we follow his steps, we will be self-insured in a matter of time, and will not need life insurance. It is essential to have life insurance right now since we have kids and a mortgage payment. But the kids will grow up. The mortgage payment will be eliminated in less than 20 years if we follow his plan. And we will have a substantial amount of money in savings and investments. As a licensed insurance agent (non-practicing), I was never a huge fan of whole life insurance, but I did not realize how worthless it really is, and that NO ONE really needs it. Many agents sell it as a savings plan, but you get a better return on investing the money. With WLI, the cash value is no good for the first 3 years or so anyway, and when you die, the cash value goes to the insurance company.

5. We have learned the importance of teaching our kids about money NOW. We have given each of them 5 nightly chores ranging from cleaning their rooms, to doing the dishes, to folding laundry. If they complete their chores every night, they get $1 per chore at the end of the week. We encourage them to give some of the money to church, to save some for future purchases, and to use the rest on whatever they like. This concept has been very successful. The kids love having their own “purchasing power.” The added bonus is that I have a much cleaner house! What I find interesting is now that they have to use their own money to buy things, they are saving it instead. It seems frivolous to them to waste their hard earned money on junk.

Dave Ramsey’s lessons are not solely about getting out of debt. Financial Peace ensures that you are ready for the unexpected and that you are educated to make smart buying decisions. Financial Peace teaches how to build wealth. And there is nothing wrong with having a lot of money, as long as you use it in good stewardship.

Jay and I have had fun referring to Dave Ramsey as “Dave” in conversation, as if he were a close, personal friend. We also ask each other “What would Dave do?”, and have considered marketing a WWDD bracelet!

Stay tuned to hear what I learn in the second half of our course!

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Free Baby Blanket and Stuffed Animal

2009-02-22T00:40:00.003-06:00

Check out the following blog for a freebie.

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Stay tuned....

2009-02-14T10:17:00.003-06:00

Between being sick and all the other events this past month, I haven't had time to blog. I am going to rest today, but I'll try and get some stuff up tomorrow. The little guy is not so little anymore!

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More Fun

2009-01-26T09:51:00.003-06:00

In our hotel room in Texas.....these are all taken with my cell phone, that's why the quality isn't as good.

Daddy Get You!

2009-01-26T09:43:00.003-06:00

Yum Yum?

2009-01-26T09:32:00.005-06:00

We made the decision to let Houston try out some "solid" foods. He has more than doubled his birth weight, he is starting to teethe, and he is still a little hungry after eating 40 oz a day - all signs that maybe a baby is ready. He didn't really care for the rice cereal, so I tried pears. Below are two videos on separate occasions. I'm not sure he likes pears, either. We may wait a little longer.

I've Been Tagged

2009-01-16T19:58:00.004-06:00

My friend April tagged me. Here you go.

5 things I was doing 10 years ago:
1. I was starting my second semester as a junior at Harding University.
2. I shared a dorm apartment with Katie Fant, Jenna McKinney, and Amber Sawyer.
3. I was about to turn 21
4. I was getting ready to go on Spring Break campaign to Chicago.
5. I was changing my major for the 5th time.

5 things on my to-do list today: (I'm going to put tomorrow since it's nighttime)
1. Go to a baby shower.
2. Clean out the fridge.
3. Help Hunter with his 100th day of school project.
4. Workout on my elliptical machine.
5. Go to my parents' house for a birthday dinner for my dad.

5 snacks I like:
1. Chips and Dip
2. Ice Cream
3. Brownies
4. Gardinos
5. Sour Patch Kids

5 things I would do if I was a millionaire:
1. Pay off the debt, including the house.
2. Help family, friends, and those in need.
3. Hire a full-time housekeeper and cook.
4. Travel the world.
5. Save for the future.

5 places I have lived:
1. Memphis, TN
2. Searcy, AR
3. Fredericksburg, VA
4. Hartselle, AL
5. Olive Branch, MS

5 jobs I have had:
1. Assistant to a Pediatric Ophthalmologist
2. Server - J. Alexander's, Searcy Country Club, Colton's, Outback
3. Medical Office - G.I. Center of the Midsouth
4. Retail - Express, American Eagle
5. American General Finance

5 people I tag:
1. Jenna
2. Wendy
3. Leslie
4. Morgan
5. Shana

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Here's another one

2009-01-14T22:00:00.003-06:00

Hunter has gotten in a BAD habit of dropping his head down and whining, mumbling, and complaining when I ask him to do something, especially clean. After dinner tonight, the kids and I (sans husband who was at work) were rushing around to get ready for church. And they both were on a roll. They were yelling and fighting (and waking up Houston). Hunter was in a slow-poke whiny routine. It was time to get in the car and I asked Hunter to hurry up and get his coat on and come to the car. He started in again, and I lost it. Here's how it went down:

Me: "Hunter! I am TIRED of the whining and complaining! I am done with it. Get your coat on NOW! I am sick and tired of this! Just sick and tired!

Hunter (In a really pitiful voice ): "Well, if you're sick and tired of me, why don't you just sell me?"

Yep, that's what he said! I know, it just makes you feel awful doesn't it? Well, he pulls that stuff out a lot too, so I wasn't buying this time.

So I humored him and asked Hayley what she thought we could get for him. I said we could really use the money. Maybe Elijah's parents next door would buy him.

It worked. I know, I'm heartless sometimes. :)

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Oh Be Careful Little Ears.....

2009-01-13T22:06:00.003-06:00

I about fell on the floorboard laughing after this one. Jay and I really should be more careful.

The family was headed to lunch Sunday after church. Hunter had asked WHY we never eat at Outback anymore. (We've taken them to Outback only a handful of times in their lives. If we go, we usually go by ourselves.) Before I could say anything, Hayley turned to her brother as if he KNEW the answer and said, "We have to save money. You know, with the new President and all."

Sorry if I offended any of you! We did have a talk about supporting our new President.

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Music to My Ears

2009-01-10T20:08:00.004-06:00

Last night, I was sitting on the couch, and Hunter could not find his favorite Spiderman pajama pants. I told him where I thought he could find them. A few minutes later he comes up behind me and we have the following conversation:

Hunter: "You are the best mom EVER!"

Me: "Why do you say that?"

Hunter: "Because you are so smart and you ALWAYS know where everything is!"

Me: (Hugging him) "Well, you are the sweetest son ever!"

It sure is nice to be appreciated.

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P.S.

2009-01-06T18:42:00.003-06:00

I did not write the previous post to make you feel sorry for me. Many people will comment, "I don't know how you do it." I am not Supermom. I just do what I can do without going crazy. Well, sometimes I go crazy. But my life is not as perfect as I try to make it out to be. If we are going to support each other as mothers, we need to be real with each other. And that's the real me. I don't cook good meals. I don't get very involved in the PTA (I do go to parties, lunch, and help out when I can), I don't make cute clothes for my kids. I'm not crafty. I hate school projects. I just try and love my kids every day. I give lots of hugs and kisses. That's me.

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I think my life has caught up with me....

2009-01-06T11:30:00.005-06:00

and my body is trying to tell me something. I have been sick (strep throat so the doc thinks, although the test was negative), for a few days now. I am much better today, but it was pretty bad for a couple of days. I am very blessed to have parents and in-laws nearby who have helped tremendously. My house is a complete disaster and it's stressing me out to no end. I have to figure out a way to make this all work and get more than 4-5 hours of sleep a night. I knew it wasn't going to be easy when Jay and I decided to have another baby. And I was willing to accept that, because I wanted Houston so badly it hurt! And he's doing very well. Deep down, I secretly hoped we could work it out where I didn't have to work anymore. Well that didn't happen. When you have a two income family, your bills usually reflect that. And it's impossible for us to take such a large pay cut. And that's okay. Dave Ramsey's going to help us with that, right??? I think if I didn't work, I probably wouldn't get out of my p.j's until the afternoon anyway! Having a job forces me to get my tail in gear in the mornings. There is just so much to do when I get home at 5:45 - dinner, baths, homework, Houston, clean-up, dishes, laundry, Houston, find clothes for the next day, etc.. I told Jay we need to figure something out. Make this all work somehow without sacrificing my health. It ends up being 11:00-12:00 by the time I get in bed. Then Houston is up at 4:30-5:00 to eat in the morning. I might go back to bed for another half-hour, but it ends up hurting me more. Jay is willing to help. The problem is, I want things done MY way in MY time frame. And it just doesn't work that way for him. It doesn't bother him if there are dirty dishes in the sink for a few days. He doesn't notice if the kids don't have ANY clean clothes, or if Hayley's hair desperately needs to be washed. That is a typical man for you though. He does come through when it counts. He spends a lot more "quality" time with the kids than I do. (Maybe because I'm busy cleaning?) But I'm grateful for him for that. He's very good at playing! And the kids really need that time with him. We will have a sit down soon and try to figure things out. I know my house doesn't have to be perfect. But if I let things go for just a couple of days, it gets completely out of control! There is no way I could be on a reality TV show - my cover would be blown. All of the chaos would be out there for the world to see! Shhh....don't tell anyone!

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My New Year's List

2009-01-03T20:49:00.001-06:00

I’m not really a big fan of making New Year’s Resolutions. It just seems a little pointless – well at least in my life. I usually forget all about them by the second week of January. This year, I decided to share a different list with you. This is a list of things I would like to see invented in 2009.

1. The Self-Cleaning Toilet.
You know, like the self-cleaning oven? I wish I could just push a button, and my toilet would go to work cleaning itself. Outside, inside, and hard-to-reach places!

2. The Sick Spa.
When you are sick, do you wish you had someone (your mom, etc.) to take care of you just like when you were little? At my “sick spa,” patients would receive TLC in the form of medicinal or herbal remedies, a warm bath, a massage, some hot tea, and even a cozy bed to sleep in. There would also be a little bell to ring when needed.

3. The 30-hour Day.
Don’t you wish there were more hours in the day? In my ideal 2009, we would change the entire calendar to make each day 30 hours long. That way I could get everything done, AND I would actually get some sleep!

4. Take-out Groceries.
I know this concept has already been invented. But I don’t think it is used very much, at least not locally. I would love to be able to call Kroger and have the following conversation, “Hello. Yes, I would like to order some boneless chicken, a 78-count of Pampers Swaddlers, a box of Go-Gurts, a half-gallon of milk, a loaf of Sara Lee wheat bread, and a box of diet cokes. It will be here in 30 minutes? Great! Thank you!”

5. The Clothes-Folding Extraordinaire.
This contraption would fit nicely in my laundry room, along-side my washer and dryer. It would be the third step in my laundry cycle. I would take the clothes out of my dryer, put them in the Clothes-Folding Extraordinaire, and presto – my clothes would come out nice and neatly folded!

So there is my New Year’s list. If any of these get invented, you are all my witnesses that I thought of it first! (Well at least I think so.)

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What Dave Ramsey and God have in common

2008-12-27T21:25:00.003-06:00

Many of you know that I am an avid Dave Ramsey follower. Let me rephrase that. I am an avid Dave Ramsey READER. I am still working on the FOLLOWING part. Jay and I have decided to participate in our church's Financial Peace series. I think everyone, regardless of his or her financial portfolio, should take this class. I joked to Jay the other day that we'd better go out and buy everything that we have our eye on before Dave tells us that we can't have it. Okay, maybe I was a just a little bit serious. That's the problem, right? Get what we want quickly, before we have time to think about it. Because we just crave it so badly. We can't say no.

A customer of mine came into the office the other day to pay on a past-due bill. She confided that she was reading Dave Ramsey. She said that she was having a hard time with it, because he wants everyone to "get three jobs and sell their cars." She thought that was just a little too overboard for her taste. I don't really think it's about working three jobs, or selling everything you have (unless that's what it takes). I think Dave's point is that you must be WILLING to do WHATEVER it takes to stay on the path to financial freedom. But we just don't want it to hurt too badly, do we? Let's be honest - we really want the best of both worlds.

As I was thinking about that conversation tonight, it opened up my eyes. I think that's how we are in our spiritual lives as well. We desire to have that close relationship with God. We yearn to be on the path to eternal freedom. We just don't want it to inconvenience us too much. We don't want it to hurt. We don't want it to be uncomfortable. Just a little something to think about.

What are you willing to give up???

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The Cat's out of the Bag

2008-12-27T19:27:00.005-06:00

If you read my previous post Dear Mothers, you know that I contributed to a project called The Mother Letter Project. I could not reveal at the time that this was orchestrated by my friend Seth (under the alias, Danny), for his wife Amber. My blog was mentioned along with others by Blogher.com, to help get the word out to other moms so that they could contribute also. Then the project took off! Because he was afraid she might find her way to my blog and put two and two together, I could not say a word! Seth and I went to college at Harding University together, where he met his very talented wife Amber. They are now blessed with three beautiful boys (yes - all BOYS! Lord, help her). Please check out the Mother Letter Project or Amber's blog to see the final result! You will be so jealous!

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Houston's New Toy

2008-12-26T19:51:00.005-06:00

Santa brought Houston a Rainforest "Bouncy Seat Thing," as I like to call it. He LOVES it! He wasn't as animated when I took the video (he always shuts down when I pull out the camera) - it's driving me crazy!

Christmas 2008

2008-12-26T17:20:00.023-06:00

Christmas was wonderful this year! It was very nice not to have to travel this year, but to wake up at our own house Christmas morning.

Christmas Eve we went over to my parents house for finger foods and fun. It was a lighter crowd this year. A lot of people were sick and could not make it. Here are some pictures:

My babies

The newest reindeer

Jay and Christy

My parents

Mimi, Hayley, Hunter

Jay, his parents, and Hunter. I don't think Hunter can take a serious picture.

My cousin Terri. Hunter has a thing about jumping into every picture!

My aunt Cindy with Houston

Jay wasn't happy about wearing the reindeer antlers
"All pooped out"

Christmas morning, Jay and I decided to host a breakfast for my parents, his parents, and his sister and brother-in-law. That way we could stay at the house and let the kids play with their Santa stuff and not have to get all ready to go out early. Here are some pictures:

Houston and Mimi

Jay's parents and the kids
Jay's sister, Jolie, and her husband, John

Sneaking some food?

Jay and John

Getting ready to open presents

Houston, er mom, opening his presents

Jay and his mom

My dad and Jay's mom

Feeding the little guy. He was hoping for the spread we made, but maybe next year!

That evening we went to my aunt Cindy's for more food! I just got a couple of pictures:

Houston sitting in my cousin Rachel's lap...watching Hayley play someone's Guitar Hero

Hayley, Houston, Rachel and her husband Craig and their boys, my cousin Terri

Hunter and Jay putting together the enormous Nerf gun that my cousin Rachel got him. It came apart and made 2 guns. It had a scope and everything.

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3 months

2008-12-26T17:15:00.005-06:00

Houston is 3 months old! Here are some tidbits:

Weight: 15.6 lbs

He eats a lot, if you can’t tell by his weight. He eats about 6oz every 4 hours, then 8oz on his last bottle of the day, to help him sleep longer.

He still spits up. Not quite as bad, but it is still happening. And you NEVER get used to being spit up on!

He sleeps about 15-16 hours a day. He will go to bed about 7:30-8:00, then sleep until about 4:30-5:00 a.m.

My internal clock knows when he is about to wake up. I will wake up before I hear him on the baby monitor, and within 2 minutes he will start crying. And he does not get up at the exact same time everyday.

He is probably the most content baby that I have ever had. He can easily entertain himself for a very long time.

He LOVES the bath. We always give him one when he is a little fussy, and it helps to calm him.

He has a Baby Einstein Playtime Music CD, and I play the same song (babies like repetition), “Old McDonald.” Every time I turn it on, his face lights up and he starts moving his arms and legs like crazy. He also has a play gym (a mat with toys that hang on arches over his head). He will lay on it for a good half hour and play.

He does NOT like to be in his car seat when he is tired (but still awake). He gets VERY upset. I don’t know what we are going to do when we have to drive to Texas in January.

He has just started blowing bubbles and putting his lips together to make silly noises! He recognizes what he is doing, and when I laugh, he will do it more and more and laugh with me. Unfortunately, every time I get the video camera out, he will just stare at the camera. I can’t record it for the life of me!

He started teething this week. It causes him to be a little fussier and run low fevers. I hope that doesn’t last too long.

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On my Soapbox again...

2008-12-07T22:28:00.003-06:00

I just don't get it. If you are one of the following people, please, indulge me.

Why, when going to Walmart, Target, the mall, etc., do people wait in their cars for 5 minutes or more for a slightly better parking spot, when they are just going to walk all around the store a few times??? It's all the same. You're holding me up, people!

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Counting my blessings

2008-11-26T22:14:00.006-06:00

This morning, I stopped at Walgreens for my daily Red Bull (A habit that I need to kick, but that's another story). I have had the same cashier the past few mornings. And every day, she has the same sullen look on her face. She rarely speaks a word, despite my overly cheerful attempts to smile at her and say, "Have a GREAT day!"

At first, I thought that she was a lady with a bad attitude, and probably needs to "suck it up." I was put out by her daily scowling, and felt that maybe she should try a little harder to be friendly.

But this morning when I was thinking of her, I started to wonder what in the world could be going on in her life to make her so unhappy? Then I felt sad for her. Maybe she or someone she loves is battling an illness. She may have lost someone she loved. She could be struggling financially. There could be a multitude of things going on that I do not know about.

And I started to count my blessings. It's easy for me to have a smile on my face every morning (well, not EVERY morning), because I have so many things to be thankful for. And in the spirit of the holiday, I decided to share them with you.

1. I'm thankful that I have a job. Many people are out of work right now.

2. I'm thankful for the USA. Although some of us think that things are "bad" right now, there is much more good in this country.

3. I'm thankful for my health and my family's health. I do not take this one for granted.

4. I'm thankful for my education. It is priceless.

5. I'm thankful for technology - the internet, cell phones, DVR, MP3 players. I can indulge, right?

6. I'm thankful for my extended family and all of my friends. They have all helped shape me into who I am today.

7. I'm thankful for my inlaws. They barely knew me when Jay and I got married. But from the beginning, they treated me as one of their own, and surrounded me with love. I feel like I have know them forever!

8. I'm thankful for my parents. There is just too much to say here. Since I have become a parent, I have more of an appreciation for everything they have done for me in my life. They are two of my closest friends.

9. I'm thankful for each of my sweet children. They are perfect in every way! And they bring such joy and meaning to my life.

10. I'm thankful for my husband. He is my best friend, and my true partner in life. He is the only man that could ever put up with me! He makes me smile everyday.

11. I'm thankful that despite all of the horrible things I've done in my life, God believes that I am worthy of all these blessings, and of the greatest blessing of all, the sacrifice of his Son. I am so undeserving.

I wish I had the wisdom to know what I could say to that Walgreens cashier, to make her smile. In the meantime, I will add her to my prayers, and continue to say, "Have a GREAT day!"

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Dear Mothers

2008-11-15T16:20:00.003-06:00

I wrote the following for a project that I came across, and decided to include it in my blog. If you would like to contribute something, please visit www.motherletter.blogspot.com.

I believe someone once said that motherhood is the hardest job for which one never gets paid. But I believe that we do get paid. The currency is just a little different. Instead of dollars and cents, we receive hugs and kisses. In place of a bonus or raise, we get a cuddle, or an “I love you.” We don’t have a yearly review. Instead we get that warm fuzzy feeling when our child masters a skill, or does something to make us very proud. Unlike the stock-market, we invest in our children with our time, our teachings, and our love. And the return is ten-fold. The “boss,” or our children, may not notice our hard work. Yet we keep “clocking-in.” Why? Because this is the most important job that we will ever have. We may want to call in sick sometimes. But we won’t get fired. We won’t quit.

I think back to my outlook on life before I had children, and I have to laugh. I remember looking at other people’s children and saying to myself, “My children will NEVER act that way.” Motherhood is a wonderful journey of self-discovery. Suddenly responsible for the future of another’s soul, we must look deep into our own values and beliefs. We as mothers are very different, but we all share a common bond. The fight is not against one another. It is greater than that. So instead of judging each other’s practices, let us stand together and support each other. As in the workforce, the “presentation” may be great, but it may have come together after late nights, crumpled papers, and much frustration. We don’t know what is behind the smile of the mom we see at school, or church, or work. Let us not be afraid to offer a prayer, a hug, or a kind word. We all could use it!

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Kids In Mind

2008-11-11T09:46:00.004-06:00

KidsInMind.com is a website that was recommended by a friend to assist parents in making smart movie-watching decisions for their children. As we all know, the "ratings" don't necessarily give us comfort in knowing the content. KidsInMind.com gives very specific details. For instance, under "sexual content/nudity", it will tell you if a boy hugs a girl, or even if a lady was seen in a bikini. It also has categories for language and violence. There is no guesswork. You know exactly what your child would be watching. I used the website before I took Hayley and some of her friends to see Beverly Hills Chihuhua. It is really nice to have on hand.

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MommySavers

2008-11-11T09:42:00.002-06:00

A great website that I came upon a few months ago is MommySavers.com. It has a ton of tips for us moms on how to save money and gives the "lowdown" on current shopping deals.

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He's already talking!

2008-11-07T23:04:00.001-06:00

Check it out. My cell phone will only record for 15 seconds, so once he got started, it stopped. I keep watching it over and over. :)

Halloween

2008-11-07T22:56:00.003-06:00

Because I am the ultimate Slacker Mom, I was not prepared to take pictures of my children on Halloween. The batteries in my camera were dead, and I didn't notice until we got to our destination. When we got back home, they were asleep. I do have a couple of pictures of Hayley from when she tried on her costume earlier in the week. Hunter was The Hulk, but I have no pictures of him. I may have to get him to put his costume back on for me.

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Cedar Hill Farm

2008-11-07T21:54:00.004-06:00

Hunter and I went on his class field trip to Cedar Hill Farm in Hernando, MS. Here are some pictures. He is quite the showoff, as you can tell.

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The Curse of the Black Flip-Flops

2008-11-07T21:10:00.007-06:00

You see these flip-flops?

These are about the ONLY shoes that my precious daughter will wear. I don't know what we are going to do come wintertime.

You see, in order to avoid tragic meltdowns, I have to give in a little. And that is hard for me. I try to refuse to be controlled by an 8 year-old, but sometimes it's just not worth the fight. Especially in the mornings, when we are getting ready. At the beginning of the school year, I bought her a few pairs of really cute shoes (that she tried on in the store) to go with her outfits - brown ones, black ones, etc. None of them got worn, not once. We recently gave them to a friend at church. It is hard enough to get her to wear her tennis shoes (which she is REQUIRED to wear on P.E. days). They all "bother" her in some way. They just don't feel right.

Same with clothes. She will try them on in the store and like them. But 5 minutes before it's time to leave in the morning, something is wrong. Either the clothing itches, the sleeves feel weird, it moves a little too much in the shoulder area, you get the point. Sadly, many of those outfits have gone to a friend as well.

I have been on strike for a while from buying her ANYTHING - hey it's been nice on the pocketbook!! But she can't wear the same thing every other day, can she? I gave in the other day and we went to buy her some jeans because none of the others worked. We had a long conversation before we went. If I buy her something, and she doesn't wear it later, she will have to pay me for it. I did give in and buy her some cute tan suede boots, you know the kind. She had to have them. Well, she wanted to wear them to school yesterday, and when she came home, she immediately took them off because they were hurting her. I hope we are not going to have a problem there.

She is very artistic, so maybe she will become a fashion designer one day, and make her own clothes.

My point: If you see Hayley wearing these black flip-flops in the snow, please do not judge her mother. :)

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No Virginia. There is no Santa Claus.

2008-11-07T20:53:00.004-06:00

Well the day finally came a couple of weeks ago when we told Hayley (our 8 year old) that there was no Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, or Tooth Fairy.

She took it very, very well. I wanted to cry.

She had asked a couple of times in the past 6 months or so, because she had been hearing from other kids that there was no Santa Claus. I tried to avoid the question, or reassure her without lying to her. However, when Hayley lost her tooth a couple of weeks ago, and was afraid of the Tooth Fairy coming into her room that night, Jay and I decided to break the news. She has had trouble sleeping in the past when the other fictional characters would "visit."

Since we told her, she has been talking about Santa lately in front of Hunter, and giving me little "winks." She feels so grown up now.

I, however, wanted to take the truth serum back immediately after in left my mouth. All of a sudden, I pictured my baby girl wearing a bra, shaving her legs, and wearing deodorant. I just want to keep her innocence! I know that it's not a big deal, but it's the first step in my eyes.

I don't remember when or how I found out about Santa Claus. Do you? How old were you?

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In addition....

2008-10-10T16:50:00.002-05:00

Chronicles of a Babywise Mom also recommends the book Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, by Tracy Hogg, which may even be a better reference. I bought the book today. I have not started reading it, but I will let you know what I think.

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To New and Expectant Mothers

2008-10-10T00:27:00.005-05:00

I am recommending a blog to those of you who want to help get your baby on a schedule and to sleep through the night. It is called Chronicles of a Babywise Mom. It is based on the book "On Becoming Babywise." Actually, I recommend the book as well. The very popular book has been controversial among some critics. I however, used the principles described in the book for both of my other children, and it worked miracles! I do believe that every mom has to go with her own instinct, and only do what is comfortable. But if you can manage 2-3 nights of letting your baby cry a little, you will reap the benefits. Let me be clear....I am not a fan of letting your baby "cry it out." I do, however, believe in helping your baby fall asleep on his, with reassurance, but not by picking baby up every time he cries. This will help baby fall back asleep when he wakes in the middle of the night, therefore, helping him sleep through the night better.

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Okay Blogging Buddies

2008-10-04T23:33:00.002-05:00

If you notice on the right sidebar, I have updated my list of Blogging Buddies with the new tool from Blogger that shows when they last posted something. I was looking at it, and am wondering why over half of you haven't updated your blog in over a month??? This is how I keep tabs on you! Post something!

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Okay, so I lied....

2008-10-04T13:00:00.003-05:00

I should have known not to write that Houston is doing well at night in my previous post, because he decided to "party" until 4:30a.m. this morning! He must have known it was Friday night. Now he wants to sleep. The nerve of the kid!

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More Houston

2008-10-03T16:55:00.016-05:00

Nicknames: Boo-Boo, Baby Doll, Shrimp, Boss, Pip-Squeak - pretty cheesy, I know! What hormones and babies will cause us to resort to!

Other acknowledgments:

He sleeps pretty well at night. Although he's not sleeping through the night, he only wakes up to eat, and then goes back to sleep most of the time. However, it's difficult for me to settle back to sleep each time I get up. But who am I to complain, he's worth it!

He loves his mobile in his room. He will lay in his bed and look at it for 30-45 minutes at a time.

He spits up quite a bit! But then all of my children did. (I had him on his changing table yesterday, and bent down to give him a kiss - just in time to get spit up in my mouth - eewww!)

He has the cutest facial expressions. He has this "eye-roll" thing that he does that is absolutely hilarious! He likes to pout his lips too, and it melts my heart.

The kids are doing pretty well with him. Hayley will sit and hold him sometimes. Hunter thinks he's cool, although he sleeps most of the time when they are home. He will enjoy him more once they can play, I think.

He has a good "awake period" from about 10:30a.m. to 12:30 or 1:00p.m., in which he sits on his boppy pillow in my lap and just looks around. This is our time to "talk."

It is still difficult to get things done around here. When he sleeps, I am either trying to catch up on my own rest, or I start getting things done, but don't get much further than washing his bottles, his clothes, and minor clean up. Then the kids get home, and it's time for homework, dinner, baths, etc. I am lucky if I get a shower most days - I know, eewww! But I am trying to just soak it all in and enjoy it. I feel that I was constantly looking forward to the next milestone with Hayley and Hunter. I want to cherish every day, because he won't be this little much longer!

Here are some recent pictures, can you believe how much he's changed in less than 3 weeks?

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My take on the economy

2008-09-25T16:36:00.002-05:00

I was going to post this on my Money Matters blog, but I haven't posted on it since April, and figured no one would see it...

I am not an economics expert, but I do have an opinion on what is happening in our economy today, and it may be a little controversial. If you've been keeping up with the news (I've seen a lot of it lately now that I'm at home with Houston), you know that Wall Street is crashing, and everyone is freaking out. I however, believe the problem lies with the American people. Yes I do. You see, in a country-wide attempt to keep up with the Joneses, we overspend, overextend, and under-save. We buy things we can not afford. We take out debts we can not pay back. And we do not save enough money for times like this. Did you know that you should have 8-12 months gross income in savings in case you lose your job? So, if God-forbid I lose my job, it is my fault that I have not saved enough money to cover my mortgage payment and other bills. It's my fault that I have debt and did not pay cash for my big-ticket items. It is not the loan company's fault. It is not the government's fault. It is not the oil company's fault. If you go into some of the "poor" neighborhoods, you will see almost every teenager walking around with a cellphone. Yet mom and dad are struggling to pay bills. Now, I know there are some cases that are unavoidable. There are people out there struggling because of medical conditions. Medical costs and prescription drugs are extremely high for these people, causing them to suffer financially. There are people who have suffered a traumatic event that can cause problems. But I'm talking about the average Joe. I see credit reports all the time of couples that make little money, but have car notes of $500-700, sometimes two! I met with a gentleman who makes $6000 a month, but had a $4000 mortgage payment - and no kids! He was coming to me for a $5K loan to help with bills! These are average people, just like you and me, and I see this EVERYDAY.

So, I'm not sure how I feel about the "bail-out" plan. Are we just treating the symptoms, but not the real problem? Can this problem really be fixed? Or will everyone feel temporarily relieved, and go back to the same old patterns?

On a side note, I believe we need to keep more jobs here in America! Quit outsourcing customer service jobs to foreign countries. Buy American. Drill for oil!

Thanks for listening.

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Introducing....

2008-09-24T13:49:00.005-05:00

HOUSTON ANDREW BROCKMAN
BORN: SEPTEMBER 15, 2008 AT 3:09 P.M.
STATS: 8LBS, 4OZ, 20 1/2IN LONG

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Soon...

2008-09-23T07:28:00.002-05:00

If you don't know yet, yes baby Houston is here! I will try and get on later today to post the details! Sorry!

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39+ weeks and 40+ pounds....

2008-09-12T14:54:00.002-05:00

I went to the doc today. So far no major changes, except for the fact that my lower back is KILLING me, and I've been cramping all day. And I can't sit comfortably or walk comfortably. Which leaves lying down. Which isn't all that comfortable either. :) The doctor could tell that I'm pretty miserable (sorry Les, I KNOW you are 100 times more miserable than I am right now). I think my BP was a little higher, because the nurse switched arms to take it again. SO - My doctor has decided to induce me one day next week. However, I don't know which day yet. L&D is pretty booked, so they will call me Sunday to let me know (certain that someone scheduled will go into labor over the weekend.) I took the rest of the day off today, and decided to go ahead and start my maternity leave. I tried to wait it out as long as I could, so I could have more time with the baby, but I can't get through a whole day at work without being uncomfortable. And that does them no good, anyway. I will let you know what the plan is - if I can just make it through the weekend!

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Pregnancy Pics

2008-08-31T22:32:00.009-05:00

My sister-in-law, Jolie came over to the house yesterday to play with her new camera and take some pictures. I didn't really have any taken of me with the other two pregnancies, so I guess I need to get it captured on film. This may be the last time!

Thanks Jolie!

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Calling Ann Landers

2008-08-31T22:23:00.003-05:00

Hayley received a birthday invitation on Friday that kind of threw me for a loop! I had never seen anything like it. First of all, the party was for today (2 days later), and unfortunately we were unable to make it. I didn't really look at the invite until tonight. It was a standard store-bought invitation with all of the details written inside. But there was also a small piece of white paper inserted with the following handwritten:

Favorite Characters: Hannah Montana, Bratz, Barbie, High School Musical, Strawberry Shortcake, & That's So Raven

Gift Suggestions: Anything from the list above; Webkinz, or gift cards from her favorite stores & restaurants.....
Target, Walmart, Children's Place, Claires, Dillards, Macy's, Old Navy, Marshalls, T.J. Maxx, Red Lobster, On the Border, & Chick-Fil-A

* There will be water activities
Please bring a towel & dry clothes!

Does anything strike you as tacky about this? Or is it just me? Maybe I should register Hayley at Target or something for her next birthday party?

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Quick Update

2008-08-26T20:11:00.002-05:00

No baby yet. I am going to the doctor every Friday for my weekly checkups. Last Friday I was 1.5 centimeters dilated and 60% effaced (cervix thinned out). That really doesn't mean a whole lot. I could stay that way a while, or things could progress quickly. Between the whole due date discrepancy, and other people telling me that I look like I'm ready to pop, I have been very anxious about labor and delivery. Now I just want to get it over with, because I can't stop thinking about it and wondering when it's going to happen! I was induced with the other two, so I don't know what to expect this time around. I know the signs/symptoms, but I just don't know how it's going to go down, if you know what I mean! I'm probably between 36-38 weeks at this point. I have gone into full "nesting" mode. Houston's room is pretty much finalized, and his bag is packed for the hospital. I started frantically cleaning last Friday night after my doctor visit that morning, afraid the house wouldn't be ready! Problem, is I didn't get much done, because my body couldn't handle it! My dear, sweet parents then commissioned my aunt (who just started back to cleaning houses full-time) to come over last night and clean the whole house for me. I've never had my house cleaned by anyone else before. Of course, I had to clean a little BEFORE she came, because I'm crazy like that! So that's the status for now, I'll try to keep you posted!

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Houston, we have a problem!

2008-08-12T18:45:00.003-05:00

So I spent about 4 hours today at the hospital in false labor. Let me preface by saying that with H&H I had scheduled deliveries and not very many labor signs before then. Some Braxton-Hicks but that was it. And this time around, I'm lucky if I have one Brax-Hick a day. The most I've ever had in one day is three, and spaced apart by many hours. So, this morning around 8:55, I was at work and felt a contraction. For some reason I decided to look at the time on the clock and remember. Then I had several more - at 9:20, 9:45, 10:15, 10:45, 10:52, and 11:00. And they did not feel too good. After about 4 of them I called the doc to see if I should be concerned. He advised me to go to the hospital just to get monitored. For some reason, my hormones took over and I started tearing up and getting a little shaky. I hate that! Anyway, my dad came and got me from work (Jay was in a meeting in Jackson, TN this morning) and took me to the hospital. At this point, they were coming over on the monitor every 10-15 minutes. I was not ready for this baby to come today! Good thing was, I had not dilated any yet. After talking with my doc, they decided to give me a bag of fluids and a couple of shots to get the contractions to stop. Then everything was fine after that! Hopefully no more trips anytime soon! My doctor called me shortly after I got home. He said that they did a fetal-something test and it came back 99% negative that I would deliver this baby in the next two weeks. So that made me feel better. Hopefully little Houston can hold out a little longer until I'm good and ready for him!

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First Day of School

2008-08-08T18:50:00.003-05:00

Yesterday was the first day of school at Pleasant Hill Elementary. Hayley started 2nd grade and Hunter started Kindergarten.

They were all set and ready to go. Hunter was especially proud of his Incredible Hulk lunchbox! For such a social child, he surprised me when we got to his classroom. He lowered his head and began to blink back the tears. It broke my heart! That afternoon, he told me that he didn't like school! I couldn't believe it. Hunter loves to learn! He did very well in preschool. I think that the structured environment was a little shocking my energetic little boy! Hopefully things will get better. Hayley seemed to love her class. She was a little nervous after we met her teacher on Tuesday, but she had a great time. This is her 4th school in 3 years, so she is used to the transition! We know her assistant teacher from our previous church, and that makes me feel really good. I'll keep you posted as the school year progresses!

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Are you suffering from CHAOS?

2008-08-04T21:54:00.005-05:00

CHAOS is an acronym for "Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome." This term was coined by FlyLady. If you haven't noticed the link on my page yet, you should visit her website. It is a site dedicated to organizing and gaining control of your home and your life. Yes, the mascot is a lady with wings, and yes, she can be a little cheesy! But if you can get past all that, she has many great ideas. Her #1 motto is to shine your sink everyday - literally. The concept is that if you take the time just to shine your sink (and not plan to do anything else), you will feel much better about your home. And most of the time, that one chore will jump start your motivation to do a few more. She is also a big believer of getting dressed head to toe (shoes and all), even if you are not planning on leaving the house for a while. This is another tool to get you motivated for the day. Check it out!!

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Cell Phone Mania

2008-08-02T22:15:00.002-05:00

Okay, I'll be the first to admit that I can not live without my cell phone. I left it at home one day and panicked. However, when I am at work, my cell phone is turned off. When I am at church, my cell phone is turned off. When I am at a function, event, or gathering, my cell phone is turned off. When I am out with a friend, I keep on low, and will not answer unless I feel that it could be important. Get it???

Today, I was at a retail store, and I kid you not, the girl behind the counter scanning my merchandise was on the cell phone! Talking to her grandmother the entire time. Not only did I not care to hear her whole conversation, I'm sure she could have worked a little faster if she didn't have one hand half constricted with her shoulder holding the phone to her ear. What has this world come to? Is it just me, or is that inappropriate?

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Due Date Dilemma

2008-07-31T23:15:00.003-05:00

So, I've been getting the question a lot lately, "When are you due?" It is actually a pretty loaded question. I have no idea when this baby is coming. Based on my last menstrual cycle, the doctor in Alabama had me pegged for the 26th of September, but my doctor here in Memphis, had it down for the 28th. HOWEVER, according to my last two ultrasounds, it's all up in the air. I had one ultrasound about 5-6 weeks ago in Alabama, and based on the baby's size, my estimated due date would have been September 16th. Then, I go to my doctor in Memphis (who delivered H&H, and I love him!) today, and my ultrasound results would have put my due date as September 10th. So, either I'm further along than we originally thought, or I'm having one big baby! He said that it's harder to pinpoint on 3rd trimester ultrasounds, there is usually a 3 week room for error. After some calculations and estimated guessing, my doctor has me down for September 16th as of now. That is only 6 weeks or so away - and I've barely gotten started getting things ready! I was waiting until we got settled in, but it's about time to get on the ball. I'm not sure about this guessing game, it's got me pretty nervous!

Oh - by the way - Hunter's birthday is September 20th - so it will be very interesting trying to plan a birthday party for him!

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Okay, here you go

2008-07-30T21:58:00.003-05:00

Since I'm trying hard to avoid getting anything accomplished today, I decided to post my first "belly pic." No, you will not get me to show any skin. This is the best I can do!

I was feeling pretty good up until a couple of weeks ago. But my goodness, with this heat, and moving, and feel like a beached whale. I can get out for an hour or two, and then I'm ready for a nap! Plus, If I don't drink plenty of water, I get dehydrated VERY quickly ---- however, on the flip side, my bladder is about the size of a walnut! We're talking trips to the bathroom every 30 minutes or so. No wonder I'm so tired all the time! I'm carrying around an extra 30 pounds of weight right now, and I can feel it. Okay, enough complaining. But I was feeling so good for so long, and then BAM! It has just knocked me off my feet. Jay told me I would feel better if I got back to exercising like I was about a month ago - I told him just walking around with this big belly is exercise! :)

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We've officially moved

2008-07-25T18:26:00.003-05:00

Well, we got back from San Diego on Wednesday evening. It was incredible - I will give details later. I'm just taking a quick break from unpacking boxes (which were dropped off while we were out of town - thanks Dad and Janice!) The problem is, I unpack a few things, and then I'm exhausted! It will take me a year at this rate! And I'm beginning to realize the size of this house compared to the one we just left. I can't walk up the stairs without running out of breath! By the way - we have picked out a name for our new little boy to be born in 8 weeks - Houston Andrew Brockman. Yes, he will have the "HAB" initials like our other two kids. We usually don't fall into those "cutesy" traps, but this just happened to work well for our family. Okay, I have to get back to work now - Jay flies out for a meeting on Sunday, then he will be back for about two days, then gone again for 6-8 weeks. I'm trying to get as much productivity out of him while I can!

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Big Belly Blunders

2008-07-15T17:41:00.002-05:00

Okay....so the big belly is officially starting to cramp my style. I have been noticing a lack of sleep the past few nights. I believe it's because I can not get comfortable anymore! I roll from side to side trying to get a position I can live with - not working for me. Not to mention the frequent trips to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Oh yeah, AND the fact that I have to ROLL myself out of the bed! I went to file something away in a bottom file cabinet at work today, and I didn't think I was going to be able to stand back up! We fly to San Diego on Sunday, and I hope I don't have any issues with comfort on the plane. It's a 3 1/2 to 4 hours straight flight. I know I'll need to get up frequently and try and stretch out so that I don't have problems with my legs. Wish me luck. :)

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Boys will be boys

2008-07-10T18:47:00.007-05:00

You know how some magazines feature an "embarrassing moment" section, where readers write in with the appalling things that have happened to them? Well, I had one of those moments yesterday. Funny thing is, I wasn't even there when it happened.

I get in the car with my two children after picking them up from day camp. Hayley proceeds to tell me that Hunter told three of his friends an interesting fact that day during playtime. He said, "My mama has BIG boobs." He used hand gestures too!

Now, before you judge me, let me assure you that we do not use the word "boob" in our house. I was not even aware that Hunter knew the word. And no, we do not condone talking about our mothers in such a personal way in our family. We actually do have strict behavior and speech standards in our home. Yes, maybe there is some way I could have done something better as a parent to prevent this, but it's said and done.

I am glad that a teacher did not overhear this comment, or I would have faced more mommy guilt. But to be COMPLETELY honest, although I was stunned, it was kind of humorous to picture my little five-year old baby-faced boy in that situation. I just pray that it is not a sign of locker room moments to come, if you know what I mean. I could not handle it! I sent Jay a text message so that he could have a "talk" with Hunter later. And do you know what he wrote back??? "Well, it's true. At least he wasn't lying." Aaaghhh! Men!! No wonder!

If you have children, PLEASE reassure me that your kids say unbelieveable things too, sometimes. If you don't have children, get ready!

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Pregnant and Pale

2008-06-29T21:49:00.001-05:00

So, I'm definitely in need of a tan. My pregnant self is looking pretty pale this summer. I've been thinking of trying out the Mystic Spray Tan before going to San Diego, but I'm afraid of how it would turn out. Have any of you tried it before, or know someone who has?

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San Diego - Here we Come!

2008-06-28T18:59:00.014-05:00

My husband has earned a trip for us (no kids) to San Diego through his job! He came in 4th place this year out of 92 restaurants, and top 5 win the trip. We will be going 2 days after we close on the house (which is 3 weeks away), so we have a lot to get done! We will be accompanied by big executives in his company.

They hold nothing back when spoiling us for 4 days. We will be staying at the famous Hotel Del Coronado...

We will have Scott Foley (formerly with the Blue Angels) as our keynote speaker. We will be eating dinner one night aboard the USS Midway...

We will be sailing on the San Diego Bay....

Will we visit the San Diego Zoo....

And we will end the trip with a big Gala at the hotel...

So....of course I had to go find some stuff to wear. Especially to the gala. And something maternity. I tend to lean toward black, because it's easier to accessorize, but I couldn't find a dress in black, so I bought this aqua dress. It's darker and richer in color in person than in the picture.

Which leads me to the purpose behind this post. What hosiery/shoes/other accessories would you wear with this dress???

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Great job!

2008-06-27T18:15:00.002-05:00

Cody's team came in 2nd place. The final score was 5-3. I am so proud to be related to such talent!

Cody is the first one on the front row:

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Go Cody Go!

2008-06-26T20:05:00.003-05:00

I have to brag a little on my nephew, Cody. Okay, he's actually my cousin's son, but she is practically my sister, and it's easier to call him my nephew.

He plays catcher for the Germantown Giants, a little league baseball team that is currently playing in the CHAMPIONSHIP GAME in the Little League World Series in Cooperstown, NY.

The tourney started with 95 teams, and is now down to 2. The game starts in about 10 minutes (I'm watching via Web Cam). They are playing the #1 seed, the South Florida Tsunami.

I don't have pics of Cody yet. I'm so proud of you Cody!!

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We found a house!

2008-06-23T18:14:00.000-05:00

You all know how stressed I have been about the move and finding a house. Well, I'm glad to report that your prayers have worked! Jay was shown a house last week that was completely out of our price range (why it was shown to him I don't know.) However, the realtor called us before we came to town this past weekend, and told us that the builder had turned in his keys to the bank. He could no longer keep the house on the market. She called the bank, and they were willing to let it go for what was owed on the loan - which was $60K LESS than the appraised value! Yep, you heard right! So we looked at it over the weekend, made an offer, and it has been accepted. Here is the house that we got the "steal" on :

Can you believe it? It is in a really nice subdivision in Olive Branch, with a very nice elementary school. Plus, both sets of parents are pretty close by. It just fell in our lap, and has all worked out perfectly. I don't know why I ever worry. God always finds a way to take care of us. We close on July 18th, and there is SO much to do before then!

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Father's Day Tribute

2008-06-15T12:09:00.007-05:00

In line with my Mother's Day comments, here are some words about the fathers in my life.

My Dad

1. He is usually the first person that a friend or family member in need will go to for help. He is always sacrificing his time for others.

2. When he notices that someone is distraught, uncomfortable, or unhappy, he will go out of his way to make them feel better and make them feel welcome.

3. He treats my mom like a queen. If you know him, you know what I mean.

4. He is not afraid to be vocal about his convictions, or to confront someone who has gone astray. He is not afraid to offend anyone when it comes to his religious beliefs.

5. He taught me to be independent and strong. He taught me to be courteous and to respect others.

My father-in-law, "Pops"

1. I don't believe that I have ever heard him say an unkind word about another person.

2. You don't have to be around him long to realize that family means the world to him.

3. He is the one family member that is always there to support others. He tries his best to attend every wedding, funeral, reunion, whatever it may be, and whatever family member it may be for. He is always there.

4. He is a great example to men everywhere. He is strong, compassionate, giving, loyal and determined.

5. He is the one who taught my husband about fatherhood. And I think he did a pretty good job. :)

My husband, Jay

1. He is definitely the "cool parent." Rarely is he too busy to get down and play with the kids. They always look forward to when Daddy is home.

2. He leads by example. The kids learn a lot from him about respect, integrity, hard work, and loyalty. He always treats me with kindness and respect in front of our children. (And away from them too!)

3. He is constantly making me smile or laugh. He is usually the one who is lifting me up in life.

4. He shares the same family values as I do. Like his father, you can always tell that family is the world to him.

5. He is well respected by those who work for him. This is a hard thing to accomplish with 100+ young employees. But he has a way about him that makes it hard to not like him. He is a strong leader. At the same time, he shows the same respect for others.

Love you all!

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Catching Up

2008-06-11T18:48:00.003-05:00

That is a face shot of our baby. We did the 4D ultrasound last month, but he was hiding, and you couldn't see him very well! Today, he measured 2 pounds, doubling in size from the last ultrasound. So, they have moved up my due date to September 21st. One day after Hunter's birthday. He is still breech, which they say is pretty normal, that he could still turn. I'm determined that he will! I did read that you could do headstands in a pool, and the baby might turn around. (I might have to break that out!)

Jay and the kids are headed to Memphis tonight. So I've got the pad to myself. What to do? It's VERY relaxing and weird at the same time. Rarely do I have peace and quiet like this. They will be doing some house-hunting tomorrow. Don't worry - his mom is going along too. Plus, I made a bunch of copies of a checklist of about 10 things that I'm looking for, so that he can fill it out for each house! Then, he can narrow it down for next weekend, when we go back. I have already seen many of the houses online, so I know what he's looking at. But I tell you, we've had some very different opinions on houses. He sees a huge backyard with a nice big deck, and he wants the house. Regardless that the kitchen needs major updating and the carpets are worn. Men! I guess we compliment each other, though. :) Pray for us. I am so ready to get this all settled once and for all.

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To all my commenting buddies

2008-05-31T11:46:00.002-05:00

Okay, okay.....so I've been put in my place regarding the last post. I know I should sit back and enjoy it!! I just don't want people looking at me like I'm crazy when I'm out mowing the lawn, okay?

Love you all! Thanks for keeping me in check!

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I'm Pregnant; I'm Not Disabled!

2008-05-29T17:49:00.003-05:00

That has become my overused motto the past few days. It all started Friday night when we drove up to the lake. Jay, the kids, my parents and I went to Walmart. the usual routine is that the men and women split up to get the items we need. As I was pushing the shopping cart, my mom and I begin the following dialogue:

Mom: "Here let me push that for you."
Me: "Oh, I've got it."
Mom: "It just doesn't look right, honey. You're pregnant."
Me: "I'm pregnant, not disabled!"

I had to use the following phrase several times over the weekend. Getting on and off the boat, walking along the dock, etc.

Then today, Jay was unable to mow the lawn (it was his day off), because the ground was still water-logged. I told him that I would take care of it this weekend, to which he replied, "I don't think so. You're pregnant!" And then I said (say it along with me now), "I'm pregnant! Not disabled!"

Now to you good-intentioned, wonderful, caring people out there, I don't mean to offend anyone. It's just that I've done this a few times, and I know what is allowed and what my limitations are. I'm not carrying the kids around, or lifting heavy furniture. But normal daily activities, including exercise, are perfectly acceptable.

And to you retailers who have special parking places for expectant mothers - That is very sweet of you. But I think I can handle the walk.

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