and my body is trying to tell me something. I have been sick (strep throat so the doc thinks, although the test was negative), for a few days now. I am much better today, but it was pretty bad for a couple of days. I am very blessed to have parents and in-laws nearby who have helped tremendously. My house is a complete disaster and it's stressing me out to no end. I have to figure out a way to make this all work and get more than 4-5 hours of sleep a night. I knew it wasn't going to be easy when Jay and I decided to have another baby. And I was willing to accept that, because I wanted Houston so badly it hurt! And he's doing very well. Deep down, I secretly hoped we could work it out where I didn't have to work anymore. Well that didn't happen. When you have a two income family, your bills usually reflect that. And it's impossible for us to take such a large pay cut. And that's okay. Dave Ramsey's going to help us with that, right??? I think if I didn't work, I probably wouldn't get out of my p.j's until the afternoon anyway! Having a job forces me to get my tail in gear in the mornings. There is just so much to do when I get home at 5:45 - dinner, baths, homework, Houston, clean-up, dishes, laundry, Houston, find clothes for the next day, etc.. I told Jay we need to figure something out. Make this all work somehow without sacrificing my health. It ends up being 11:00-12:00 by the time I get in bed. Then Houston is up at 4:30-5:00 to eat in the morning. I might go back to bed for another half-hour, but it ends up hurting me more. Jay is willing to help. The problem is, I want things done MY way in MY time frame. And it just doesn't work that way for him. It doesn't bother him if there are dirty dishes in the sink for a few days. He doesn't notice if the kids don't have ANY clean clothes, or if Hayley's hair desperately needs to be washed. That is a typical man for you though. He does come through when it counts. He spends a lot more "quality" time with the kids than I do. (Maybe because I'm busy cleaning?) But I'm grateful for him for that. He's very good at playing! And the kids really need that time with him. We will have a sit down soon and try to figure things out. I know my house doesn't have to be perfect. But if I let things go for just a couple of days, it gets completely out of control! There is no way I could be on a reality TV show - my cover would be blown. All of the chaos would be out there for the world to see! Shhh....don't tell anyone!
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
I think my life has caught up with me....
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I feel your pain!!! and I only work one day a week.
Oh Christy! You just described my life. I act like I have it all together on the outside but deep down, my house and my body are telling me a different story! I'm so with you on the fact that our husbands are willing to help but that we want it done our way. I couldn't write that better myself! I think most daddys are so much better at spending quality "play" time with kids and not looking at the things us mothers look at. It's so hard to take a step back and look at the things that really matter. I think that really needs to be part of my new years resolution....try not to do EVERYTHING! Us as mothers need to take care of ourselves as well and enjoy some time with our kids even though there are dishes to be cleaned, clothes to be washed...or whatever it maybe. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone! It's hard being a mom! Don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing great! Just look at those wonderful kids of yours!
You're not alone sista, and I only have 1 child! I keep telling myself most "normal" people don't have a spotless house all the time.
Okay, you didn't ask but I'll tell you anyway. Been there-only had two but after being a stay at home mom for 10yrs and then going back to teaching full-time, yeah I was there.
Psych yourself up-you know the answers. #1--What is it that truly matters? Is it having a "perfectly clean/straight" house or a less stressed mom who enjoys her family and has her sanity? I know, easier said than done. #2-get the kids involved in the household chores. Make it a game for them and relax if its not done exactly as you would have done it. Let them know you can't do it all and need their help and that its a family-thing, everybody does their part.
Take some deep breaths. You are doing a fabulous job!
Love you!!
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